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Before two people actually go on a first date, they probably
have made some connection somehow. Even if a blind date is the first
date, they still would have had some indirect contact through a third
party, maybe a phone conversation or email. The real purpose of dating
is about contact and making a connection with someone. Contact can occur
in several ways, but a connection may or may not happen right away, if
at all.
Your first desire is that
you want to date. You want to see someone and you have an attraction to,
or you feel a connection with, and you want to get to know the person
better. By wanting to get to know the person, it's like you want to
prolong that initial attraction and explore future possibilities. Dating
is therefore a way to seek to confirm those initial beliefs, feelings
or qualities you identified for or about the other person.
But is what you seek to
confirm real, imagined or not even present? That's what dating is also
about – discovery. It's about discovering if the quality that attracted
you to the person is really there and also if there are other attractive
and what other positive factors the person may possess. Many times, your initial
thoughts about a person reflect what you really hope or want the person
to be like. And that is actually just imagined qualities that you are
projecting on the individual who you desire as a potential date. That
means there could be some conflict or disappointment when the individual
truly reveals his or her qualities. Dating
allows you to discover more about the other person and the qualities
that you initially noticed or think you noticed. You may or may not find
those same qualities are all that attractive when you get to know the
person better. And you may discover other qualities that are good and
bad as your relationship develops through the dating process. Based on what you discover, you will decide whether or not to
continue to date the individual. Keep in mind that there are other ways
to find out about your date's qualities, characteristics and personality
besides dating. It may be worth finding out more through friends and
family as the relationship your potential date has with them will reveal
a lot about them as a person. The places you go on a date and the things your date likes to do
can also serve a useful purpose in determining whether you want to
continue seeing an individual. Hidden characteristics and talents which
wouldn't otherwise have been seen often are exposed through
participation in various activities with groups and on an individual
basis. So while regular dates will still have the primary purpose of
helping you to discover more about the individual, you shouldn't
overlook secondary means of information such as family and friends, the
occasional unusual date place or an activity that your date may enjoy
doing from time to time.
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